A significant shift in life can start with changing one habit. Even a small thing, that doesn't seem directly related to the bigger change that happens. Something about the process reminds the mind that things don't have to be the same, that assumptions about who we are and how we act are just stories we bind ourselves in. It's our reality, but it isn't what has to be our reality.
So open the door to change a crack, and you may find yourself storming through a wide-flung portal into an exciting future.
I've identified a deep seated aspect of how I relate to the world. I avoid conflict. I could give a thousand examples, across the years and in both my work and personal life. Conflict bothers me, and I would rather avoid it, even if it results in even more harm in the end.
While I've begun to grapple with that, and put energy into pulling back from my default behaviors and openly facing conflict, which often can be positive and productive, I still have a long way to go.
That's a big thing, much more than just a habit. But I've recently identified a habit that, to me, seems related. I've observed that when I'm expecting an important email, and open my inbox, that even though I'm looking for that one email that I know is important, and perhaps even asked for, I'll find myself scrolling through the chaff, deleting emails I don't want. Basically, I'm avoiding opening the important email until I've sorted through all the unimportant ones and have no excuse left.
Why not just go for the important one first? Perhaps it will be good news, perhaps disappointing. But I've already recognized its importance. Why waste time on the rest?
So that's the habit I'm going to change. Important email? Potential for conflict or disappointment? It gets attention first.
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